Old Mill Guesthouse Wedding in Wallkill, New York

Coordinator - RSVP by B
Venue Contact Old Mill Guesthouse
Videographer - Emily Berman
Flowers - Vivi Fleurz
Band/DJ - NT Wedding DJs
Rentals - Tbirds Rentals
HMUA - Marina Dubrovina
Cake/Sweets - Charmy Bakery
Lighting - Hourglass Lighting
Officiant - Hudson Valley Ceremonies
Suit - Suit Supply
Dress - Kyha
Dress #2 - Sau Lee
Shoes - Jimmy Choo
Invitations - Elle Creative Studio
Day of Stationary - Antoinette, the Bride

What other venues were in the running, and why did you ultimately go with Old Mill?

We didn’t visit many venues, but we were considering a few in the Hudson Valley. We visited Gather Greene, but our final contenders were between Old Mill and the Prospect Park Boathouse — two totally different vibes.

If we were going to do something more indoors, we had always envisioned a space like the Boathouse — with its timeless European feel and light stone façade. It’s such a beautiful venue. So in the end, it really came down to there or Old Mill.

Ultimately, when we imagined our wedding, we knew we wanted something outdoors that also felt like a true getaway retreat. Since we live in Brooklyn, we wanted something that felt removed from our everyday life rather than local. On-site lodging was such a huge plus, and we really valued being able to spend the entire weekend with our closest friends and family.

The funny part is we actually had a visit scheduled to see the Boathouse the week after touring Old Mill — but we ended up canceling it and booking with Audrey’s to secure our date. I think we both just knew.

In your opinion, pros and cons of this venue?

Pros:
The space is beautiful without needing much, and the flow of the night feels incredibly natural. It’s perfect for couples who really value atmosphere and guest experience. On-site lodging is amazing, and the in-house catering makes planning seamless. The pergola being roofed is also incredible for a rain plan. Being able to host every part of the weekend in one location — rehearsal, welcome party, getting ready, ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, and after party — made everything feel effortless. Our on-site guests especially loved not having to think about transportation or going anywhere else.

Cons:
It’s definitely better suited for smaller guest counts — which isn’t necessarily a bad thing if you’re really aiming for that intimacy! It’s also not a blank canvas venue; it has a strong personality. Rather than thinking about how much decor you can add, you have to think about how to complement what’s already there. It felt magical to us as is, but for couples who want to go heavier on production or completely transform a space, that’s something to consider.

All of the design felt so effortlessly aligned with both of your personal styles. Were you both involved in the design?

Kevin:
It was pretty much all the wifey! She would check in every once in a while and (rarely) ask for my opinion. The one thing I was particular about was the lighting. Lighting makes a world of difference in the atmosphere and mood of a space, and I cared about that a lot.

Antoinette:
Thank you! I’m a designer as my day job, so thankfully (or rightfully lol), as Kev mentioned, he really let me take the reins. He definitely signed off on most of the final decisions, and I always gave him options — this or that — so he could weigh in. But before we really got into the design, we focused on how we wanted the entire weekend to feel. Once we had that, everything else — the vibe, the colors, the stationery, the decor — really just fell into place.

Perhaps if it were just me, there might’ve been a little more pink 🤭 But when designing something that reflects both of us, I really tried to neutralize it and make sure it didn’t feel like it was just my vision. It was important that it felt like us, not just me.

Was your planner a month-out coordinator? Full planning? Which do you recommend?

Antoinette:
We had a month-of coordinator (it was required by Audrey’s), and honestly having month-of  or even just day-of coordination is 10000% the way to go. I couldn’t imagine managing logistics and vendor communication that close to the wedding. It lifts such a huge weight off your shoulders. Bianca (RSVP by B) was amazing — so attentive and such a calming presence during those final crunch days.

That said, I naturally love planning. Whether it’s trips abroad or small local events, I always have spreadsheets ready. I genuinely enjoyed the entire process — I honestly miss it! But I know it’s not for everyone, so I’d recommend choosing the level of support that feels right for you and aligns with your budget.

Kevin:
If you already have a really clear vision and don’t want to be hands-on, full planning could be great. But if you want to enjoy the ride and figure things out piece by piece, month-of or day-of is perfect. We loved having the freedom to choose our vendors and adjust things along the way without feeling tied to a specific direction. We adjusted things based on how we felt, and that flexibility was really nice.

Looking back, was there anything you obsessed over that wasn’t worth the stress?

Kevin:
We were so caught up in planning everything that I don’t think we had time to stress over just one thing — but I’m sure Antoinette might say otherwise!

Antoinette:
If there’s anything I stressed over pre-wedding, it was 1000% the invitations. The designer side of me definitely obsessed over them being “perfect.” Before getting engaged, I never really imagined what my wedding would look like — but I knew for certain I’d have the perfect invites. They felt like such a big representation of the weekend. They were setting the tone, the mood, the whole “brand,” and I put a lot of pressure on them being this entire moment.

As for the day of, my type A brain is so used to having full control when setting things up that the idea of not physically placing every detail exactly how I envisioned felt unfamiliar. Noticing one tiny thing slightly out of place or a color a little different than I imagined felt bigger in my head than it actually was.

Looking back, everything was beautiful — and even if something hadn’t been “perfect,” it wouldn’t have changed how the day felt. It’s funny how the things that seem huge in the moment end up being so small in the grand scheme of it all.

Would you have done anything differently?

Kevin:
Not really. Maybe tiny details, but overall everything went so well.

Antoinette:
Little details here and there, but big picture? No. It was more perfect than we could’ve imagined. If anything, maybe I would’ve hired a content creator — just to have more candid in-the-moment footage.

What was the best wedding advice that you took — or advice you didn’t take that you wish you had?

Kevin:
Enjoy the journey of planning, because before you know it, you’ll miss being in that phase of life.

Antoinette:
Stick together as much as you can throughout your wedding day. Being glued to each other made everything feel even more special. The idea of recapping the night later and realizing we had completely different experiences during moments when we could’ve been together (especially once the official party had started)  felt a little scary to me. I didn’t want our memories of the day to feel separate. I wanted to experience as much of it side by side as possible.

For couples getting married at Old Mill, what would be the one piece of advice you’d like to give them?

Kevin:
Be ready for any kind of weather (even though the rain plan is great!). If you have ADA guests, make sure they understand the layout of the property so they’re prepared.

Antoinette:
Lean into the space and the intimacy of it. Focus on the feeling and what you want your guests to experience and remember from the weekend. The property is naturally cozy and personal, so being intentional with your guest list, the music, the vibes, and the tiny thoughtful details makes all the difference. Most importantly, think about how to make it feel like you as a couple. The venue will shine on its own, and it’ll be a weekend your guests won’t forget.

Also, use everything the venue offers to your advantage and trust the team! Audrey’s staff is incredible. Everything felt seamless, and we received so many compliments about the flow and organization of the weekend — none of that would have been possible without them.

If a couple wants a wedding like yours, all-in with vendors, how much would it cost them?

For a wedding similar in size and scope, we would estimate somewhere between $100k–$150k, depending on vendor selections and how custom you go with design and production.